Go Ahead, Send the Risky Text
“If you dare nothing, then when the day is over, nothing is all you will have gained.” — Neil Gaiman
The wall has been broken when it comes to sending risky texts and there’s no one but ourselves to thank for that. As the world crumbled this year, Millenials and Gen Z began to let down their guard and cease gambling with their inner emotions.
While young people adapted to a new normal with a pandemic, shelter in place, lack of job stability, the harsh realities of inequality, and a global uprising, the mindset of recklessness and texting without boundaries seemed so easy and fool-proof. The truth of the matter is, when everything is seemingly falling apart, there is little to lose.
The science behind sending an anxiety provoking text shows the invigorating feeling that’s secretly craved. A brief moment of dopamine waves allows people to let down their guard. Prior to the pandemic, we associated risks with stress but now, the unease has subsided and the subsequent stress seeks other ways in which to manifest. The question on why we as a society are so hardened by life when we have the ability to live every situation freely is a puzzling one. It took this year of hardship to discover that we have nothing to fear but fear itself and that risky text ultimately doesn’t matter in the long run.
Once one reaches the point of panic and regret, it’s important to recognize the atmosphere around them. Despite it still feeling like it’s March, the end of 2020 is fast approaching and everything else seems irrelevant. In a time of uncertainty and rapid change, we ask ourselves why we tend to go back to the same people, even if the thought of reaching out once seemed stressful. Why is it that the desire to send a risky text is even there in the first place? In a pandemic and in life in general, we tend to crave comfort. We crave what we know and we crave normality. Life is scary at the moment and the mixture of nostalgia and familiarity is all too appealing.
At the end of the day, whatever happens, happens and when asked, young people have mentioned their worries being placed on other things, such as, caring for family or obsessively washing their hands. The paranoia that seeps in has diminished and young people may or may not have all the time in the world.
Nothing is certain during this time and in a sense, that is what drives them to take risks the most. Gone are the days of obsessively sitting by the phone, having debates on whether you should tell someone what you’re thinking, and feeling that sense of impending doom once you finally do so.
It’s true that people were more rational before the pandemic when it came to taking risks. If a majority of people weren’t stuck in quarantine, it’s safe to assume that there would be a less likelihood to participate in riskier activities. It all comes down to the fact that people have shifted their anxiety to the virus and away from acts that once seemed so scary. Once people are consumed with stressing over something greater, the little things seem so trivial.
Whether or not we choose to send a risky text in the future, now is the time to tell people how we feel, what we’re thinking, and let go of any apprehension. After all, nothing really matters.